I’m From Swansea, Wales, UK.

by jas strong

I didn’t mean to do it, but I did, and here I am.  How did I get here?

I’ve always been gay.  I’ve known it since I was five years old.  Growing up in a small Welsh town was not easy on me, so as soon as I could I moved away to the nearest city.  It was hard for me to do this and make it to university, so I just worked and worked and worked, got experience, and bounced around Europe a bit working for different tech companies.  Eventually, one in the USA offered me a job and I thought that seemed like fun, so I took them up on their offer.

I came to the USA on a work visa with restricted terms. I’m not eligible for a green card because I don’t have a degree – except, of course, by marriage. That would have been easy, except for the fact that I fell in love with another woman.  Domestic partnership doesn’t get us the right to stay together in this country, so I’m going to have to take my wonderful, intelligent, loving and brilliant partner away from everything she’s ever known if we’re to stay together.  I don’t want to do that, because I like it here in San Francisco, and we’re very happy together.  I’d like to settle down but it’s hard to do that when you have the Sword of Damocles hanging over your head.

When California legalized marriage for us, it was another step towards getting official recognition. We felt like, maybe, it was going to all be okay.  I’m trying not to make this into a rant, but maybe that’s all I’ve got left in me after a lifetime of fighting.


  1. Don’t give up fighting, but also don’t give up hope. Slowly but surely, things are moving in our direction. I look forward to hearing about your marriage.

  2. For those who need a resource on LGBT immigration issues – or for those of us who need something productive to do with our anger.


  3. I’m so sorry that you are a victim of the discriminatory laws of this country. I hope it helps to know that your brothers and sisters are in this fight with you.

    You can get legal help at the National Center for Lesbian Rights. Their website is at http://www.nclrights.org/.

  4. Keep up the good fight! You’re a strong resourceful woman – can you get a degree? Just hang in there…thanks for sharing your story.

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