I’m From Willmar, MN.

by ian bloomquist

Around my eighteenth birthday in October ’08, a very dear friend of mine, Morgan, was killed by a drunk driver. She was so much inspiration to me, and claiming to be bisexual, was really the driving force that encouraged me to come out earlier that year.

More than a year later, when the Prop. 8 trials in California were underway, I became a real vocal entity in my community about the push for gay rights. Willmar, as readers may or may not know, is the host of the Sonshine Festival, one of the largest Christian rock festivals in the country, and the community shares these sentiments, to a degree I have yet to see anywhere else in Minnesota.

A few days into the coverage of the Prop. 8 trials, I quoted on my Facebook page a comment made by one of the attorneys; something along the lines of gay marriage not destroying the foundation of marriage but strengthening it. Needless to say, this did not go over well, and I quickly received responses about how wrong I was, how it wasn’t God’s plan, etc. I, aside from one or two friends, was completely alone in my fight, and the intensity grew when Morgan’s mother jumped into the argument, saying that it was her “motherly” duty to tell me that being gay is wrong and just a choice and so on, and that if Morgan were alive, she would be saying the same thing.

By about this time, my mother, accompanied by a dear friend of hers, returned from work, and I told them about this “Facebook war” happening on my news feed. She immediately went to her computer and chastised Morgan’s mother for using her dead daughter as a crutch to fight her fights, and that I have a mother who loves me “the way God made” me. Her friend, too, argued in my favor, referring to herself as my “other mother” just to be amusing. Shortly after, about a dozen friends of mine either argued publicly in my favor or texted me and apologized for how horrible I was being treated. Needless to say, the nay-sayers’ flames were shortly extinguished.

It hurts me to this day to have read what Morgan’s mother has written to me, and to know that she truly did not know her daughter the same ways I did, but I can sleep easily every night, resting on the fact that my friends – my REAL friends – and my family will always be there to look after and protect me, even if some of them are in Heaven.

7 Comments:

  1. Were Target not being such wienies at the moment, I’d recommend your moving a couple hours east :-

  2. Your mom said it perfectly.

  3. I like how people say things like “it’s not part of God’s plan.” As if they discussed it with him ad nauseum and he’s holding them personally responsible to see it through.

  4. I think it is horrible how some people can be so bigoted. I’m happy that you fought back.

  5. Its not gods plan to chose what you become. Its you own self that picks what you want in life. To make the wrong or right choices yet there is never a right answer always guesses yet there is right answers to half the stuff.

    I say this..”Its not gods plan to chose who you are its yourself that does that… Even to make choices that you make mistakes on. Being who you are and trying to understand that is what you need to do in life. Don’t take what other people say that does not matter. I know that times of change and understanding is very near. Bhahaha… to those who don’t understand.”

    Gods plan for everything is messed up for there is different things you can believe. Believe in yourself or him if you want. I shall never belive in god for there are many reasons why. I am a very open minded and friendly about topics.

  6. Ian, I go to school here at Concordia, and am quite good friends with Trey H and Phil K. Last year, as this facebook war happened, Phil showed a bunch of us here, and you had more support than you knew. Some of the narrow-minded comments that were made really made some of us angry. I was just clicking around her on IFD, and recognized this story! Just thought I’d send another note of encouragement and support your way, and I wanted to commend you on how you handled the situation! Keep being great!

  7. I saw a great link on FB today that showed a photo of a plaque someone has. It read, “Stop using Jesus as an excuse for being a narrow minded bigot.”. Loved it.

    http://photos-f.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/180223_186126078076767_113544412001601_516040_1488569_s.jpg

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